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Non-Violent Communication: Mindfulness in Action

Posted by on Dec 6, 2016 in Uncategorized | 0 comments

When I was first given Marshall Rosenberg’s book, Non-Violent Communication, (NVC) it sat on my bookshelf, tucked between at least 25 books on Buddhism, mindfulness, and spiritual awakening, for over a year.  I had the mindset that I would “get around to it,” but if I was honest, I also thought that the book, given its title, somehow didn’t apply to me.  I didn’t see myself as violent, and therefore, I didn’t feel a rush to read the book.  I also didn’t see its connection to the books that surrounded it.   Eventually I would come to realize...

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How To Raise Non-Judgmental Children

Posted by on Apr 7, 2016 in Uncategorized | 0 comments

How To Raise Non-Judgmental Children

My 5 year old son and I are driving by our new neighbor’s house.  He enthusiastically starts waving, rolls down the window and says, “Hi!  Hi!”  His excitement is contagious, so I start waving too.  Our neighbor stands there, looking at us as we pass his house. “Well he wasn’t very friendly,” I say.  Then I pause.  I can feel the twinge of judgment in my body, manifesting as a slight tightness in my throat and chest.  I aspire to use and teach Non-Violent Communication (NVC) in my house, and I’ve just...

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Blame and the Empty Boat Practice

Posted by on Oct 8, 2015 in Uncategorized | 0 comments

Blame and the Empty Boat Practice

I am sitting with clients at my office in the autumn morning shade. Their rescue dog sits with us. He was caged in a dog mill for 7 years until my clients opened their home and hearts to him. A shifting of position in my chair used to startle him- now he is unfazed. His eyes are friendly and take in all that surrounds him. He is relishing his newfound freedom and is confident where he once was unsure, eager to explore the surrounding ranch and then return when called. There is also a cat; soft, young, grey with white socks, friendly, and...

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3 Mindfulness Activities You Can Do With Your Child Today

Posted by on Sep 21, 2015 in Uncategorized | 0 comments

3 Mindfulness Activities You Can Do With Your Child Today

“Mindfulness means paying attention, in a particular way, on purpose, in the present moment, and non-judgmentally.” ~ Jon Kabat-Zinn Mindfulness. It’s popping up everywhere! The reason? We now have the ability to study the brain like we haven’t before due to modern technology, and the results are in. Mindfulness is good for your health, your stress level, your relationships, healing trauma, giving birth, developing compassion for others, developing self-compassion, communicating clearly, and living a happier life! For more information on the...

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Depression Sucks: 7 Questions That Can Help

Posted by on May 14, 2015 in Uncategorized | 0 comments

Depression Sucks:  7 Questions That Can Help

Depression. It sucks. Here’s my new working definition of depression: Can’t let go of the past, can’t move on towards the future, so might as well hate yourself in the present. Depression results in painful sensation in the body* that we attach meaning to such as:      why bother with anything    you will never feel joy again    nothing is satisfying    life is meaningless    you are broken and there is no fix In addition depression can disrupt:    Sleep    Relationships    The ability to work/go to school    Appetite...

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Ending the Torment of Regret

Posted by on Feb 24, 2015 in Uncategorized | 0 comments

Ending the Torment of Regret

This is real life. You will be asked to make decisions that will bring you to your knees. You will wrestle and grapple with whatever it is. You will shed tears of agony and pain and then… You will choose, because you must. You will do the very best you can in that moment. And then…. Regret will set in. It may creep in slowly, or it may hit you like a bullet train. Your mind will tell you stories about how the other choice would have been better. The other choice would have had less suffering. The other choice would have been right, good, and...

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Hiking With My Son ~ A Mindfulness Practice

Posted by on Nov 22, 2014 in Uncategorized | 0 comments

Hiking With My Son ~ A Mindfulness Practice

It’s one hundred degrees in town and the ninety-degree temperature at my house in the mountains feels almost cool in comparison. I decide it’s a perfect day to take my 2-year old son Xavier for a hike.   I know the spot well; a flat trail with spectacular views of the Rocky Mountains in the state park just a few miles away.  As soon as we hit the trail he starts running. Fast. I know what’s coming next and cringe. He falls. It seems to hurt me more than it does him. He jumps up and keeps running. He trips again, this time a full-face plant. I...

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I Want My Tiger! ~ Using NVC with Toddlers

Posted by on Nov 22, 2014 in Uncategorized | 0 comments

I Want My Tiger! ~ Using NVC with Toddlers

My 2 ½ year old wakes up grumpy. I have no idea where he gets that. This morning, he climbed in to bed with me, stepping on my head along the way, and started whining that I needed to go and get his tiger, blanket, armadillo, monkey, and water, which were all still in his bed. My first thought was, “If all of that is in your bed, and you want it, why not just stay in your bed?” Instead of saying that out loud, however, I got up, and went to get the gang for him. As I lay back down, he took the tiger and threw it, and then proceeded to cry, “I...

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How Thought Labeling Can Reduce Anxiety

Posted by on Oct 13, 2014 in Uncategorized | 1 comment

I am on a hike with my husband and 4-year-old son. We are doing a loop, and we’ve got about a quarter mile left, which is all uphill. We stop for some water and snacks to fuel up for the last stretch. My son sits happily eating a Lara bar. “Look at this ant Momma!” he says. I respond, but it’s halfhearted if I’m honest, as my attention has been pulled elsewhere. The sky is getting dark and the clouds are moving swiftly. The sun seems to have vanished. “It’s going to rain,” I think to myself....

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How to Teach Children NVC

Posted by on Aug 26, 2014 in Uncategorized | 1 comment

My son and I are on a walk with our dog when out of the blue he asks me, “What’s an army Momma?” Hmm. One of those trick 4 year-old questions. “An army is a group of people that defend a country,” I answer, happy with my PC reply. “Oh,” he says. Then he asks, “What would you do if an army was trying to hurt me?” I pause, realizing that this is not a hypothetical question for many parents, and feel the impact of that as well as not knowing how to answer. Dang it! I thought I was out of the...

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